This Isn’t Love – It’s Emotional Labour
When Emotional Labour in Relationships Gets Rebranded as Love I came across a post the other day that almost made me throw my phone across the room. It was meant to be supportive. Empowering, even….
Self-Abandonment Is a Trauma Response
Why fawning is the most rewarded trauma response – and what it’s costing you now. Let’s strip this back to the roots. If you’ve been doing the work of healing – reading the books, following…
Self-Abandonment Is NOT Your Fault
Why You Keep Doing It – Even Though You Wish You Could Stop You’re the one who holds it all: You’re the one who makes sure that all the birthdays, Christmases, and other special occasions…
What Self-Abandonment in Relationships Really Looks Like (And How to Stop It)
What Self-Abandonment in Relationships Looks Like in Real Time. It started with a casual text from a former client. No red flags. No pressure. “Hey stranger. Want to grab a coffee next week?” But something…
What No One Tells You About After the Breakup
Everyone knows about the heartbreak. The crying, the missing, the “how could he” and the “if only…” But no one tells you about what comes after that.Not the grief, but the strange and disorienting empty space…
What Is Self-Abandonment? Why It’s Not Self-Sabotage (and What’s Really Going On)
What You Think Is Sabotage Might Actually Be Something Deeper You’ve probably said it: “Ugh, I always sabotage myself.” But what if what you’re calling self-sabotage is actually something deeper? If you’ve ever wondered what self-abandonment…
Why It’s So Damn Hard to Stop Self-Abandoning (Even When You Know Better)
Stop self-abandonment… if only it were that easy. You already know you do it. You say “yes” when you mean “no.” You avoid hard conversations. You keep the peace. You downplay your needs. You smile through the…
How Your Scarcity Mindset Quietly Sabotages Your Relationships (And What To Do About It)
You know about scarcity mindset when it comes to money. But what about a scarcity mindset in love? If you find yourself stuck in situationships and almost-relationships, tolerating crumbs, or constantly trying to earn someone’s…
How Your Inner Child Drives People-Pleasing (And Self-Abandonment)
We all know that feeling – the rising panic when it seems like someone’s upset with us. Maybe it’s a friend who goes silent, an email that feels a little too short, or that subtle,…
Self-Abandonment and the Hidden Link to Anxiety
Self-abandonment and anxiety are deeply connected – the roots of it may surprise you. Anxiety can feel like an unrelenting force, something you live with on the regular, and you can often feel powerless to…