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Self-Abandonment

What Self-Abandonment in Relationships Really Looks Like (And How to Stop It)

What Self-Abandonment Looks Like in Real Time. It started with a casual text from a former client. No red flags. No pressure. “Hey stranger. Want to grab a coffee next week?” But something about it…

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How to find yourself after a breakup.
Emotional Unavailability | Self-Abandonment

What No One Tells You About After the Breakup

Everyone knows about the heartbreak. The crying, the missing, the “how could he” and the “if only…” But no one tells you about what comes after that.Not the grief, but the strange and disorienting empty space…

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self-sabotage vs self-abandonment
Self-Abandonment

What Is Self-Abandonment? Why It’s Not Self-Sabotage (and What’s Really Going On)

What You Think Is Sabotage Might Actually Be Something Deeper You’ve probably said it: “Ugh, I always sabotage myself.” But what if what you’re calling self-sabotage is actually something deeper? If you’ve ever wondered what self-abandonment…

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Self-Abandonment

Why It’s So Damn Hard to Stop Self-Abandoning (Even When You Know Better)

You already know you do it. You say “yes” when you mean “no.” You avoid hard conversations. You keep the peace. You downplay your needs. You smile through the discomfort. And maybe you’ve even named it: self-abandonment….

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woman wondering about her scarcity mindset in love...
Self-Abandonment | Emotional Unavailability

How Your Scarcity Mindset Quietly Sabotages Your Relationships (And What To Do About It)

You know about scarcity mindset when it comes to money. But what about a scarcity mindset in love? If you find yourself stuck in situationships and almost-relationships, tolerating crumbs, or constantly trying to earn someone’s…

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Self-Abandonment

How Your Inner Child Drives People-Pleasing (And Self-Abandonment)

We all know that feeling – the rising panic when it seems like someone’s upset with us. Maybe it’s a friend who goes silent, an email that feels a little too short, or that subtle,…

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Self-Abandonment

Self-Abandonment and the Hidden Link to Anxiety

Let’s explore how self-abandonment causes anxiety at the root – especially when it starts in childhood. Anxiety can feel like an unrelenting force, something you live with on the regular, and you can often feel…

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self abandonment
Self-Abandonment | Emotional Unavailability

Stop Self-Abandonment: How to Start Choosing Yourself in Relationships

Self-abandonment in relationships is one of the most damaging (and invisible) patterns – and for years, it shaped mine. A while back, I was in a situation where I had to choose. A while back, I…

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your presence matters
Emotional Unavailability | Self-Abandonment

How Self-Abandonment Erodes Your Self-Esteem (And What to Do About It)

Imagine what it would be like, to live your life, rooted in the belief that above all else your presence matters more…

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You, my friend, are dating down.
Emotional Unavailability | Self-Abandonment

You, my friend, are dating down.

You’ve heard it before right? That’s not really it though, you’re just not willing to settle! I mean, the men you date are lovely people… attractive, smart, funny… you’ve even gotten serious with a few…

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