Say “No” without the guilt hangover.
Picture this: The phone rings, you see the caller ID and immediately avert your eyes, pretending you didn’t see the call come in. Why? Because if you answered you know you’d be roped into doing…
You’ll never find your ride-or-die if you keep self-abandoning.
It’s time to stop self-abandoning and start showing up for yourself. A while back, I was in a situation where I had to choose. I had to choose ME, and that also meant choosing “not-you”……
What if you actually are being dramatic?
Have you ever noticed that when you’re not getting the results you want in life, there is often a serious amount of drama happening at the same time? You’re upset, over thinking, over analyzing, strategizing, feeling…
How to deal with a passive-aggressive partner.
“I’m fine.” ……You know what that means when someone says it to you right? Everything is NOT fine. In fact, most of the time it means something like: Everything is definitely not fine I’m upset…
Don’t be a dick.
Recently I was having a conversation with a colleague of mine about why people can sometimes, on a dime, turn into a jerk. We were talking about the hard to catch and hard to deal…
No really, what’s it like to be in a relationship with you?
Let me ask you something: What’s it like to be in a relationship with you? At first, you might think it’s pretty easy: You’re kind, thoughtful, and generous You have a great sense of humour…
Ultimatums don’t create happy relationships.
This idea of changing or controlling someone’s behaviour to start or stop doing something comes up in all the time. Whenever people are dissatisfied in their relationships, the first place they look is to the…
Use your words – you gotta speak up.
Let’s finally address the BS idea that “if they really cared, they’d just know.” Seriously. It’s in every rom-com book, movie, or play ever written. That moment towards the end right before the happily-ever-after moment….
Boundaries: a game changing conversation in your relationship.
Generally, when I start talking about boundaries, people mentally check out of the conversation. Even though everyone’s heard they’re supposed to set them, knowing what your boundaries are, can be tough. On top of that,…
Ground rules are for more than just playgrounds.
Learning to fight fair will create better connection in your relationships. At least once a week I speak with a client about how to have a tough conversation with someone they’re in a relationship with….