Unhealthy patterns, like those in emotionally unavailable relationships, cause a lot of pain and emotional turmoil for those involved. Whether it’s in the middle or at the inevitable end of the relationship, no one escapes without emotional injury. Given a chance, people will identify unhealthy patterns (like emotional unavailability) in their lives, however doing anything about…
Emotional unavailability refers to those who create barriers and/or obstacles between themselves and others in an effort to avoid emotional intimacy. In this three part series we’re doing a deep dive into emotional unavailability, what it is, how to spot it, and what to do about it. If you haven’t already, you can start by…
Have you ever had a relationship with someone where you felt like you were on pins and needles? Maybe like you never really knew where you stood with them? Or maybe you have someone in your life that is always doing everything on his or her own. Like: they have a really hard time asking…
Have you ever noticed that when you’re not getting the results you want in life, there is often a serious amount of drama happening at the same time? You’re upset, over thinking, over analyzing, strategizing, feeling resentful, etc… And it often seems to be the case that it’s “their” fault, as in “my partner is not…
Generally, when I start talking about boundaries, people mentally check out of the conversation. Even though everyone’s heard they’re supposed to set them, knowing what your boundaries are, can be tough. On top of that, actually having the conversations to set and hold them can seem confronting and hard. Boundaries are physical and emotional limits…
Learning to fight fair will create better connection in your relationships. At least once a week I speak with a client about how to have a tough conversation with someone they’re in a relationship with. This includes things like: Approaching a prickly topic Drawing or holding a boundary Telling someone they were a jerk or…
