Grounded in your power. Confident in your value. Fully self-expressed.

Coaching high-performing women to identify and heal their dysfunctional patterns, step into their power, and create healthy relationships in all areas of life.

I believe there comes a time in everyone’s life, when we’re forced to acknowledge we can’t keep doing things – doing life – the same way.

It’s like a reckoning between all the doing – the box checking, striving, hustling, and pushing – and the deep inner knowing that there has to be something more to life than this.

That’s an uncomfortable truth to come up against.

As women we’ve spent our lives being twisted into pretzels, trying to be who we’re supposed to, rather than feeling empowered to be who we really are.

Most of us go through life with a sense there’s a plan or formula we should follow. Something like:

Go to school ➟ Get a degree ➟ Get a job ➟ Get married ➟ Get a house ➟ Have a kid ➟ Get a better job ➟ Get a bigger house ➟ Have another kid ➟ and so on and so on…

Plus, of course, you have to walk the line of insane expectations for women while you do it, like: be attractive but don’t try too hard, be nice and polite but don’t be a push over but don’t rock any boats either, and climb the ladder but don’t be too aggressive, etc. etc. etc.

And if we can just follow that plan, check those boxes, and do all those things, we’ll be happy.

But that’s not what happens.

Instead, you end up here. This place you’re in right now, where it’s painfully clear that all the box checking in the world will not be enough; it will not lead you to fulfillment and happiness.. and that is unsettling, to say the least.

And then you end up here…

At this crossroads between the part of you that wants to stay in this comfortable world of hustle and grind, and that deep inner-knowing part of you, calling you forth into your authentic being.

It’s a letting go of living from the familiarity of the box-checking, doing place, and stepping into that heart felt, soul led place. On the outside, this transition often gets labeled as burnout, midlife crisis, nervous breakdown, or dark night of the soul.

But on the inside, it feels like an unraveling or collapsing of everything, and you can’t stop it or control it.

At least, that’s what it felt like for me.

  • Why was I never fully satisfied?
  • Why did I always feel like I had to put on an act?
  • Why was I so concerned about whether people liked me?
  • Why did I always feel so alone, even when with friends or a partner?
  • Why did I feel so numb and flat? Why couldn’t I just be happy?

Like, seriously, WHY?!?! I had a pretty good life. I grew up in a pretty average way, with a pretty average story. I didn’t have a lot of the disadvantages that so many do… so why then did I feel like such an outsider?

And that’s when I went looking for answers and my unique process for supporting my clients was born.

You can’t solve a problem if you don’t have a proper framework to understand it.

Doing inner-work is hard. It’s confusing, uncomfortable, and working through the layers can feel endless and and unclear. In fact, for myself, my experience of that process has been decades long. After all, authentic confidence and deep self-worth starts at the roots, but I really believe it’s worth it!

But I wanted something better for my clients. I wanted a way to zero in on the work that needs to be done and a clear strategy for taking action, and that’s how my concept for the Personal Blueprint process came to life.

I wanted something that gave my clients in-depth, concrete, and measurable answers about why they are the way they are and where they need to put their focus so they can stop chasing their tails and wasting energy.

My process gives us direct access to understanding why you are the way you are.

Not only do we look at how well you know yourself (your needs and desires) we look at things like how well you trust yourself, how self-critical you are, how well you can receive from others, and eighteen other deep-dive areas.

Then because it’s important to understand why we are that way, we look at all the contributing factors that keep you stuck in those patterns of thinking and being for yourself. We get a baseline score on your attachment style, maladaptive schemas, codependent tendencies, family history, coping strategies, and more.

Based on the work of Dr John Gottman and the Relationship Checkup, my Personal Blueprint process is an overall checkup on your relationship with yourself, giving you a clear starting place and specific suggestions for action ensuring you can start and finish strong.