This Isn’t Love – It’s Emotional Labour
When Emotional Labour in Relationships Gets Rebranded as Love I came across a post the other day that almost made me throw my phone across the room. It was meant to be supportive. Empowering, even….
Self-Abandonment Is a Trauma Response
Why fawning is the most rewarded trauma response – and what it’s costing you now. Let’s strip this back to the roots. If you’ve been doing the work of healing – reading the books, following…
Self-Abandonment Is NOT Your Fault
Why You Keep Doing It – Even Though You Wish You Could Stop You’re the one who holds it all: You’re the one who makes sure that all the birthdays, Christmases, and other special occasions…
What Self-Abandonment in Relationships Really Looks Like (And How to Stop It)
What Self-Abandonment in Relationships Looks Like in Real Time. It started with a casual text from a former client. No red flags. No pressure. “Hey stranger. Want to grab a coffee next week?” But something…
What Is Self-Abandonment? Why It’s Not Self-Sabotage (and What’s Really Going On)
What You Think Is Sabotage Might Actually Be Something Deeper You’ve probably said it: “Ugh, I always sabotage myself.” But what if what you’re calling self-sabotage is actually something deeper? If you’ve ever wondered what self-abandonment…
Why It’s So Damn Hard to Stop Self-Abandoning (Even When You Know Better)
Stop self-abandonment… if only it were that easy. You already know you do it. You say “yes” when you mean “no.” You avoid hard conversations. You keep the peace. You downplay your needs. You smile through the…
How Your Inner Child Drives People-Pleasing (And Self-Abandonment)
We all know that feeling – the rising panic when it seems like someone’s upset with us. Maybe it’s a friend who goes silent, an email that feels a little too short, or that subtle,…
Self-Abandonment: What It Is, Why You Do It, and How to Stop
Are You Abandoning Yourself? Here’s How to Finally Choose You You know the moment. You feel the truth in your gut – but override it anyway. You justify. You wait. You shrink yourself just a…
How Self-Abandonment Erodes Your Self-Esteem (And What to Do About It)
Imagine what it would be like, to live your life, rooted in the belief that above all else your presence matters more…
Say No Without the Guilt Hangover: A Boundary Recovery Guide
Learning to say no without the guilt is not an easy task for most of us… Picture this: The phone rings, you see the caller ID and immediately avert your eyes, pretending you didn’t see…