Through a series of short Facebook Live videos I’m addressing some really common questions and concerns about setting boundaries and saying “no”. For a lot of people, setting boundaries and speaking their truth can be a really uncomfortable thing to do. The trouble is, living without boundaries is a recipe for overwhelm, exhaustion, and resentment.
How to say “No” and feel good about it.
In this first video, we talk about getting clear on what you want to say “yes” to and what you want to say “no” to.
How to say “No” and feel good about it… part 2.
In this second video we talk about how your relationship to your needs and feelings will impact how easy it is for you to set a boundary. Often we are taught to put our needs and feelings second and in so doing, you are eroding your sense of self – self-trust, self-respect, and self-love.
Don’t ask for permission to set a boundary.
In the third video we talk about how we can unconsciously be looking to others to tell us it’s okay to set the boundary we want to, but the truth is the permission has to come from you.
Setting boundaries and feeling the guilt… what’s that about?
Often setting boundaries and saying no to people can leave us feeling guilty. In most cases, the guilt is a key factor in our avoidance of being clear about our limits. What’s the perspective shift you need to have in order to alleviate any guilty feelings? Check it out here:
Do you make it easy to say no to you?
When it comes to setting boundaries, it can be really easy to focus mostly on how we feel – both about setting the boundary and our concern for how the other person will feel because of the new boundary. Something we can easily forget about is what it’s like for the other person to talk to us and set boundaries with us.
How easy is it for other people to talk to you about how they really feel?