How to deal with a passive-aggressive partner.
“I’m fine.” ……You know what that means when someone says it to you right? Everything is NOT fine. In fact, most of the time it means something like: Everything is definitely not fine I’m upset…
Don’t be a dick.
Recently I was having a conversation with a colleague of mine about why people can sometimes, on a dime, turn into a jerk. We were talking about the hard to catch and hard to deal…
No really, what’s it like to be in a relationship with you?
Let me ask you something: What’s it like to be in a relationship with you? At first, you might think it’s pretty easy: You’re kind, thoughtful, and generous You have a great sense of humour…
Ultimatums don’t create happy relationships.
This idea of changing or controlling someone’s behaviour to start or stop doing something comes up in all the time. Whenever people are dissatisfied in their relationships, the first place they look is to the…
Use your words – you gotta speak up.
Let’s finally address the BS idea that “if they really cared, they’d just know.” Seriously. It’s in every rom-com ever written. That moment towards the end right before the happily-ever-after moment. When the lead characters…
Boundaries: a game changing conversation in your relationship.
Generally, when I start talking about boundaries, people mentally check out of the conversation. Even though everyone’s heard they’re supposed to set them, knowing what your boundaries are, can be tough. On top of that,…
Ground rules are for more than just playgrounds.
Learning to fight fair will create better connection in your relationships. At least once a week I speak with a client about how to have a tough conversation with someone they’re in a relationship with….
Is your relationship getting stale?
It’s Friday afternoon. You’re wrapping up your workday and feeling goooood. Your co-workers are all headed for happy hour and they keep bugging you about joining them. But you’re not interested. In fact, you can’t…
Three basics for better communication.
Think about the last time someone said to you: “We need to talk”. How did you instantly feel? Anxious? Panicky? Defensive? Angry? Immediately questioning what you did wrong, how are you going to explain it,…