This idea of changing or controlling someone’s behaviour to start or stop doing something comes up in all the time. Whenever people are dissatisfied in their relationships, the first place they look is to the other person thinking “if they’d just to (or not do) this thing, everything would be better!” Essentially the unconscious framework…
Let’s finally address the BS idea that “if they really cared, they’d just know.” Seriously. It’s in every rom-com ever written. That moment towards the end right before the happily-ever-after moment. When the lead characters are about to walk away from the relationship, because they’ve had some miscommunication that the viewing audience can see but…
Generally, when I start talking about boundaries, people mentally check out of the conversation. Even though everyone’s heard they’re supposed to set them, knowing what your boundaries are, can be tough. On top of that, actually having the conversations to set and hold them can seem confronting and hard. Boundaries are physical and emotional limits…
Learning to fight fair will create better connection in your relationships. At least once a week I speak with a client about how to have a tough conversation with someone they’re in a relationship with. This includes things like: Approaching a prickly topic Drawing or holding a boundary Telling someone they were a jerk or…
It’s Friday afternoon. You’re wrapping up your workday and feeling goooood. Your co-workers are all headed for happy hour and they keep bugging you about joining them. But you’re not interested. In fact, you can’t wait to get home! Why? Because you know that in 4 hours and 32 minutes you’re going to see your…
Think about the last time someone said to you: “We need to talk”. How did you instantly feel? Anxious? Panicky? Defensive? Angry? Immediately questioning what you did wrong, how are you going to explain it, and make things better? What about when you have to talk your partner about something that could lead to conflict?…
