I know it’s not normal to talk about personal stuff like this with a stranger, but let me ask you a question: are you tired of always taking care of everyone else?
You’re always there to take care of everything for everyone but no one seems to be there to take care of you.
It’s fine in the beginning when you’re the one with all the suggestions and advice… but after a while, it becomes burdensome (even obligatory) to manage everything in your life plus everyone else’s stuff too.
Maybe you’re even focusing on other things you feel successful at, to distract yourself from the truth that your relationships leave you feeling drained.
Living this way is exhausting.
No matter what you do, this pattern seems to happen over and over and you don’t know how to stop it. It may look different in your professional and personal life, but if you’re honest it happens everywhere.
You’re frustrated more often than you’re having fun, and you don’t know what to do next. You may even be starting to doubt your ability to ever have the kind of easy, productive, and happy relationships you want.
If we really told the truth here, we’d say that you feel resentful and at a loss. Maybe it’s all because you’ve forgotten something…
Your happiness matters!
It’s so easy to lose sight of that when you’re being all the things to all the people. Finding time for yourself and figuring out how to get the kind of support you really need can seem confoundingly hard.
That makes it even more frustrating for you! After all, you’re the one who gets shit done! You’re the one people look to for direction and leadership! You can always figure these things out… so how come it’s not working here?
Believe it or not, this isn’t as uncommon as you might think, especially for high achievers like yourself. Do you know why? Because it’s not very often people actively learn about healthy relationships.
Think about it! Most of the time people don’t even consider it as a thing, it’s just a natural part of life and everyone just kinda figures it out… except they don’t… and they end up here.
So don’t keep doing it that way.
There are actually rules and strategies that can significantly improve your experience in relationships. So why not start now? Whether it’s personal or professional, learning how to ‘do’ relationships well is worth your time and energy.