You Can’t Control or Change Your Partner.

Heather Spurrell Building Connection and Intimacy, Dealing With Breakdowns In Your Relationship, Relationship Rulebook

This topic comes up in just about any conversation about dissatisfaction in relationships because people often think they can change their partner. So let’s get this out of the way right at the beginning. You can’t. If your partner makes a real change in their life, it’s because they decided to do so. There. That’s clear. End of article right? …

Creating better connection and intimacy is easy when you know how to fight more fairly.

Learn to Fight Fair and Bring New Levels of Connection and Intimacy to Your Relationship

Heather Spurrell Building Connection and Intimacy, Manage Relationships Powerfully, Relationship Rulebook

By Heather Spurrell It’s 10 am Saturday morning, errand day, and you and your person are set. It’s all the life stuff, mundane but necessary. Normally it would be a boring hassle but today is a ‘date-day’ in an effort to reconnect with each other. The connection and intimacy have been drifting as between you have been a little tense …

Keep the Sparks Alive in Your Relationship by Putting the Other Person First

Heather Spurrell Building Connection and Intimacy, Manage Relationships Powerfully, Relationship Rulebook

By: Heather Spurrell It’s Friday afternoon, you’re wrapping up your workday, and you’re feeling goooood. Your co-workers are all headed out a little early for happy hour and they keep bugging you about joining them. But you’re not interested. In fact, you can’t wait to get home!  Why? Because you know that in 4 hours and 32 minutes you’re going …

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Better Communication Is Easy When You Stop Being Afraid of the Fight

Heather Spurrell Building Connection and Intimacy, Dealing With Breakdowns In Your Relationship, Tools For Better Communication

By: Heather Spurrell It’s 5:30 am. Your alarm goes off to start another day. You rub your face and try to wake up after a restless night of not-so-restful-sleep. The weight of what’s ahead of you at work descends on you. You drag yourself out of bed and down the stairs to get your first cup of life-giving coffee. As …