You Can’t Control or Change Your Partner.

Heather Spurrell Building Connection and Intimacy, Dealing With Breakdowns In Your Relationship, Relationship Rulebook

This topic comes up in just about any conversation about dissatisfaction in relationships because people often think they can change their partner. So let’s get this out of the way right at the beginning. You can’t. If your partner makes a real change in their life, it’s because they decided to do so. There. That’s clear. End of article right? …

couple facing each other having a tough conversation to avoid future conflict

Learning to Have Uncomfortable Conversations in Your Relationship Will Actually Build the Connection

Heather Spurrell Building Connection and Intimacy, Building Trust, Meaningful Conversations

According to Dr. John Gottman, one of the key indicators of a healthy relationship is the friendship in the partnership. Couples who genuinely like each other and enjoy spending time together have a healthy relationship – no brainer right? So what builds and maintains friendship in the relationship? One way to build friendship in the relationship is to talk to each …

Setting boundaries is important in your relationship

Boundaries are One of the Most Important Conversations You’ll Ever Have in Your Relationship

Heather Spurrell Building Trust, Manage Relationships Powerfully, Relationship Rulebook

Whenever I start talking about boundaries I can see and feel people mentally check out of the conversation. Boundaries get talked about all the time; everyone knows they’re supposed to set them, most people have a hard time figuring out what their boundaries are/ should be. On top of that, setting them and holding them occurs as confronting and hard. …