You weren’t meant for a life of overfunctioning, unmet needs, and invisible exhaustion.
This 30-minute call helps you stop gaslighting yourself, name the one thing keeping you stuck, and reclaim the time, energy, and peace of mind your self-abandonment has been costing you.
You’ve been the emotional shock absorber for everyone around you.
The peacekeeper.
The strong one.
The one who just handles it.
You don’t fall apart. You carry it all – even when no one asks how you’re holding up.
And somewhere along the way, you stopped being on your own list.
Stopped naming what you wanted.
Stopped trusting that your needs were worth taking seriously.
That’s self-abandonment.
And if no one ever named it that before – that’s part of the problem.
It’s not always obvious…
It doesn’t always look like people-pleasing.
Sometimes, it looks like over-functioning.
Like downplaying your pain. Like biting your tongue.
Like giving understanding to people who never offer it back.
You didn’t choose this pattern because you were weak.
You adapted because it felt safer to disappear than to disappoint.
But the cost?
It’s not just your time or energy. It’s your peace. Your voice. Your sense of self. And if you’re ready to stop replaying that same pattern – this is where it starts to shift.
What The Boundary Breakthrough Call is (and isn’t)
This isn’t your typical coaching call.
It’s also not a pep talk, a performance, or a thinly veiled sales pitch.
It’s a diagnostic.
A 30-minute deep dive to help you name the one pattern that’s been quietly running the show – and keeping you stuck in cycles of over-functioning, unmet needs, and emotional burnout.
We’re not here to fix everything in half an hour.
We’re here to name what matters – so you can stop second-guessing yourself and finally understand what’s actually been keeping you from showing up for yourself.
Most women walk away from this session with language that finally clicks, a sense of relief they didn’t expect, and a tangible next step that feels doable – even if it’s uncomfortable.
Who This Is (and Isn’t) For
This is for you if:
- You’ve read all the books, listened to the podcasts, done the inner work…
but something still keeps pulling you back into old patterns. - You constantly second-guess your needs, your instincts, your right to take up space.
- You’ve been the strong one, the responsible one, the one who holds it all together –
and you’re starting to wonder what that role has cost you. - You’re ready to get honest about the pattern without spiraling into shame or blame
This isn’t for you if:
- You’re looking for someone to tell you exactly what to do. (This session is about clarity, not quick fixes.)
- You’re not open to exploring the uncomfortable stuff – like the truth of how you’ve been showing up in relationships, or what you’ve been avoiding.
- You’re hoping to vent for 30 minutes and leave the same way you came in
This call is honest, clear-eyed, and supportive.
If you’re willing to look – gently, but truthfully – at what’s been driving your self-abandonment, this session will meet you exactly where you are.
What You’ll Walk Away With
- A clear understanding of how self-abandonment is playing out in your life – right now
(not in theory, not in the past—in real time) - The core belief or blind spot keeping you stuck in this pattern
(the one that makes it so hard to choose yourself, even when you want to) - Language that helps you stop gaslighting yourself and start trusting what you feel
(because once you can name it, you can stop overriding it) - One concrete next step you can take – based on what’s actually been keeping you stuck
This isn’t about willpower or trying harder.
It’s about understanding what’s really going on underneath, so you can finally stop circling the same questions and start moving forward – with clarity and self-trust.
Why This Matters Now
Because patterns like self-abandonment don’t stay contained.
They bleed into everything – your time, your energy, your relationships, your self-worth. And the longer you live inside the pattern, the harder it becomes to see it clearly… let alone change it.
So if something in you is waking up right now – that quiet, insistent knowing that you can’t keep doing it this way – this is the moment to listen.
Not in six months.
Not when you’ve burned out again.
Not when another relationship leaves you feeling invisible or used up.
Now.
Because every time you tell yourself “It’s not that bad,” or “I’ll deal with it later,” the pattern tightens its grip. And your needs, your peace of mind, your sense of self – keep getting pushed to the bottom of the list.
This session is your chance to stop the cycle before it steals any more from you.
You don’t have to keep abandoning yourself just to hold it all together.
You’re allowed to choose something different – starting here.
Why Me – and Why Now?
I’ve spent the last 15 years helping women untangle from patterns they didn’t choose – the ones that leave them overfunctioning, self-silencing, and wondering if maybe they are the problem.
They’re not. And neither are you.
You learned to survive this way. To stay connected. To stay safe.
But survival isn’t the same as living.
This work is about reclaiming the parts of you that had to go quiet. Not in some abstract, woo-woo way – but in the moments that actually matter:
- The conversation you keep avoiding.
- The boundary you don’t think you’re allowed to set.
- The tiny moments you override your own knowing – again and again.
If you’re ready to see what’s really driving this pattern – and what it’s truly costing you – this is where we start.
What’s Included:
A 30-minute private session with me (Heather)
We’ll meet on Zoom and dive straight into the one pattern that’s quietly been driving your self-abandonment. You’ll get a clear mirror, not a script.
A pre-session questionnaire
So we can hit the ground running. You’ll reflect on a few specific questions to help us identify what’s really been keeping you stuck – and where to focus.
Tangible clarity + a next step
You’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of what’s been running the show beneath the surface – and one concrete action you can take to start shifting it.
Investment: $97 CAD
This isn’t a sales call in disguise.
It’s a real moment to see yourself clearly – maybe for the first time in a long time.
You’re not broken and you’re not too late.
And you’re not the only one who’s been carrying this for years
Self-abandonment isn’t a flaw – it’s a survival strategy.
And the fact that you’ve made it this far while holding all of this? That’s not weakness. That’s strength.
But you don’t have to keep doing it this way.
You’re allowed to want more.
You’re allowed to take up space.
You’re allowed to stop disappearing into roles that were never meant to define you.
Let’s look at what’s really been driving this – so you can stop living like the cost of connection is always you.