You Can’t Control or Change Your Partner.

Heather Spurrell Building Connection and Intimacy, Dealing With Breakdowns In Your Relationship, Relationship Rulebook

This topic comes up in just about any conversation about dissatisfaction in relationships because people often think they can change their partner. So let’s get this out of the way right at the beginning. You can’t. If your partner makes a real change in their life, it’s because they decided to do so. There. That’s clear. End of article right? …

Setting boundaries is important in your relationship

Boundaries are One of the Most Important Conversations You’ll Ever Have in Your Relationship

Heather Spurrell Building Trust, Manage Relationships Powerfully, Relationship Rulebook

Whenever I start talking about boundaries I can see and feel people mentally check out of the conversation. Boundaries get talked about all the time; everyone knows they’re supposed to set them, most people have a hard time figuring out what their boundaries are/ should be. On top of that, setting them and holding them occurs as confronting and hard. …

Creating better connection and intimacy is easy when you know how to fight more fairly.

Learn to Fight Fair and Bring New Levels of Connection and Intimacy to Your Relationship

Heather Spurrell Building Connection and Intimacy, Manage Relationships Powerfully, Relationship Rulebook

By Heather Spurrell It’s 10 am Saturday morning, errand day, and you and your person are set. It’s all the life stuff, mundane but necessary. Normally it would be a boring hassle but today is a ‘date-day’ in an effort to reconnect with each other. The connection and intimacy have been drifting as between you have been a little tense …

Keep the Sparks Alive in Your Relationship by Putting the Other Person First

Heather Spurrell Building Connection and Intimacy, Manage Relationships Powerfully, Relationship Rulebook

By: Heather Spurrell It’s Friday afternoon, you’re wrapping up your workday, and you’re feeling goooood. Your co-workers are all headed out a little early for happy hour and they keep bugging you about joining them. But you’re not interested. In fact, you can’t wait to get home!  Why? Because you know that in 4 hours and 32 minutes you’re going …